should "self" be changed?

[zipher]

On Wednesday, May 27, 2015 at 12:48:02 AM UTC-5, Steven D'Aprano wrote:
> On Wednesday 27 May 2015 14:39, Ben Finney wrote:
> 
> > zipher <dreamingforward at gmail.com> writes:
> > 
> >> Arrgh.  Sorry, that was meant privately...
> > 
> > I'm glad we saw it publicly, so that we get more of an idea how you
> > treat people.
> > 
> > That kind of homophobic slur is inappropriate from anyone in this
> > community. Kindly cut it out altogether.
> 
> I look forward to the day when people would read the earlier insult and be 
> perplexed as to why it is a slur at all. In the same way as "your mother 
> wears army boots" has become a joke slur, not taken seriously.

Yes, and I look forward to the day when you *bend over* freely to take it all in without complaint.  When such offerings are natural and aren't seen as an insult at all.  

You first.

Mark 

> So long as it does nobody any harm, and all participants have consented, 
> what one adult chooses to take into their mouth is nobody else's business 
> and certainly no reason to look down on them.
> 
> 
> 
> -- 
> Steve